Nowadays, people live in permanent stress that can jeopardize their lives. However, some people are able to overcome tough times, criticism and conflict. Those are the mentally strong people. According to Amy Morin, in her book “13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do”, those persons have a few core beliefs that bring them peace and resilience.
Hereunder are some of their secrets…
1. To be mentally strong is not about acting hard.
Being mentally strong does not require you become a robot, or appear to have a tough exterior. It is more about behaving according to your values and ethics.
2. To be mentally strong does not require you to disregard your emotions.
To grow and develop your mental strength does not require you to ignore your emotions; On the contrary, it is more about increasing a deep consciousness of them. It is about knowing and understanding how your emotions affect your opinions and behavior.
3. To be mentally strong does not require you to be entirely autonomous.
Being mentally strong is not about declaring that you do not have to ever ask for help from anyone, or from any category of upper authority. Acknowledging that you do not have all the answers, asking for help when you need it and admitting that you can gain strength from a higher power is an indication that you really want to grow stronger.
4. To be mentally strong is not about positive thinking.
If you overly think positive can be just as harmful as thinking overly negative. To be mentally strong is about thinking accurately, reasonably and realistically.
5. To be mentally strong is not about looking for happiness.
If you wake up every morning and try to force yourself to be happy will not make you a mentally strong person. To be mentally strong is more about making the right decisions that will help you reach your full capacity.