By Sara El Kareh
All human beings have the same emotions, one of which is anger. All are healthy emotions when we deal with them in the right way, and so is anger. We all get mad, and we consequently react to it by saying or doing things that we usually regret eventually. It can make us lose our conscious behavior and act in improperly. Therefore, we should be able to manage this particular emotion.
Anger management is all about realizing the things that generate our anger and find ways to express this emotion and madness in the most appropriate and calmest way possible. In other words, we should forget about useless means for handling the situation and figure out new positive mechanisms to handle the issues and disappointments that result from anger.
- Sleeping Habits: Sleeping plays a very effective role in our lives, and it is definitely a means for fighting any issues, whether physical, mental or emotional. Therefore, it is very helpful to manage anger. It allows our mind and body to rest and refresh. We all feel better when we have a goodnight sleep. The best sleeping time is 7 hours every night, however, since people’s bodies differ, some may need more, and others less.
- Be ready for hard conversations. When you know that you will be having a conversation that will trigger your anger, make sure you find the proper way to handle it. Write down some notes before going into it, and list the things that you have to say, and practice to say them in the calmest way possible. In this way, it will be easy to avoid anger when you refer to your notes.
- Look for solutions before the problems: It is essential that you know what triggers your anger, and it is more useful to concentrate on a way to handle these problems so that you don’t have to face them again later on.
- Express yourself: after you get angry, wait for the time you get calm, and then express yourself in a very appropriate and peaceful way. You should learn how to be self-confident without having to be violent.
- Be considerable: you should understand that we are not the same and we cannot control how others feel, behave or what they believe. Therefore, you should accept people the way they are, and never expect them to be just as you want them to. It will simply make you angrier when you hold grudge on people.
- Choose the time you want. Whenever you want to have conversations that are more likely to make you angry, make sure you are not exhausted or nervous. When you have distracting things on your mind, you will easily get mad and behave angrily.
- Resort to humor: When you’re angry, it is easy for you to be sarcastic. It will be very inappropriate. Instead, try to add some humor to these anger-triggering conversations. This will decrease the bitterness in the conversation and will offer you a better mood. Laughing is effective in reducing anger as well, however, be aware that it won’t be misunderstood.
- Relax, Breathe and forget about it. Whenever you feel that you’re going to get angry, just do some breathing exercises. They will help you rest comfortably and restore your heart rate to its normal level.