It’s delicate and hard for some people while annoying for others when they need to converse with a colleague who has been diagnosed with cancer, or a relative. It all depends on the personality and emotions of the colleague and her response when she has to answer any question concerning her diagnosis.
Let’s see the bigger picture that a colleague’s spouse had cancer surgery few weeks ago, and he has been away from work to handle the situation. Only very few people from the office have contacted him to check on them though there are too many employees. Your colleague has always been good with others and had good relationships with them, so he is hurt and disappointed by this treatment. He can’t get over his feelings. When he returns to work, people will start asking him questions but since no one checked on him when he needed their help, he doesn’t want to discuss such personal matters with them. How should the questions be handled?
3 simple methods
It’s not always true that your colleague’s silence means that he doesn’t care about your situation. Here are some points to consider:
• When you work with a large group, some colleagues may consider that they don’t have a close bond to be in touch. Others see the situation as a hard time and assume that connecting with him can be intrusive. While some may be reluctant not knowing what to do.
• Some colleagues ask for the latest news from other colleagues who have contacted him. When he gets back to work, those people will salute him with affection and sympathize with him. He has to accept their emotions which are considered to be real and respond politely.
• If he wishes not to talk about detailed information while responding to the questions of his colleagues, he can simply say, “My wife is getting better. Thanks for your concern.” And hold the conversation on that.
Some people might seem careless and unsympathetic, in this situation he doesn’t have to waste his energy on them. He must only appreciate the caring co-workers who were concerned and considerate during this difficulty and also for those who kindly welcome him back.
It’s a very important to show our colleagues that we care and support them in such ordeals and never ponder in helping them in any possible way.