Convincing people is very helpful to your success and happiness.
Persuasive people can so easily make you think the way they think. They can make you like “them” far more than liking their ideas…
How can they do this? Here are some of their secrets…
They Know Their Audience
When a persuasive person gets to know his audiences, he will be able to speak their language. In addition, because everyone is different, sometimes it can take more time toward getting the audience to hear your opinion.
When people get to understand what kind of person you are, they are much more likely to accept what you have to say. According to a negotiation study, where students were asked to reach agreement in class and, without instruction of any kind, 55% of them successfully reached agreement. Nevertheless, when students were told to present themselves and their background before trying to reach agreement, 90% of the students did so successfully.
This shows that no matter how convincing your argument is, if you cannot connect on a personal level, everything you say will have question marks on.
They Aren’t Pushy
Pushy people could be very annoying whereas persuasive people can confidently and assertively establish their ideas, without insisting or being aggressive. The thing about persuasive people is that they do not ask for much, and they completely understand that tact is what wins people over in the end. Try not to be impatient and overly persistent and understand that people will hold on you if your idea is really a good one.
They Use Positive Body Language
Control your body language in a positive way. Be aware of your gestures, expressions, and tone of voice; by doing this, you will be able to engage people and to convince them that what you are saying is true. Try to use an enthusiastic tone, to uncross your arms, to maintain eye contact, and to lean towards the person who is addressing you. When it comes to persuasion, it is about how you say something rather than what you say.
They Are Clear and Concise
Influential people can directly communicate their ideas clearly. They master their subject so well, that it becomes easy and fun to explain it even to a child!
They Are Genuine
Make sure you are being genuine and straightforward with others so you can easily influence them. People do not like fake persons and they can only trust the genuine ones.
Persuasive people have enough self-confidence so that if they focus on what makes them happy as individuals, they become much more interesting and persuasive than if they pretend to be the persons they are not.