Becoming charismatic involves paying careful attention to how you interact with other people; the traits that make up charisma are positive and appealing to others. The charismatic person uses his skills to get people on his side, perhaps from a professional, ideological or social point of view. For these reasons charisma is often linked to leadership skills – being charismatic can be an important trait of a successful leader.
When asked to think about a charismatic person most people think about a public figure, like a politician, celebrity or successful leader. These people are charismatic and successful, due often to their charisma, but there are also many ‘ordinary’ people who possess a charismatic personality. The popular child at school, the staff in the restaurant who make the most tips, the popular person in the office who is friends with everybody.
Being Charismatic Means:
A charismatic person can not only appear confident in communication but they can also help others feel confidence too, thus aiding and enhancing the communication process. Charismatic people are confident in a positive way, without being boastful or egotistical.
Charismatic people try to see the best in other people, situations and events – they usually remain cheerful and ‘bubbly’. Charismatic people have the capability to encourage others to see things as they do, thus they can enthuse and enable others to feel more optimistic.
Being an Emotional Player
Although charismatic people are very good at showing their true emotions when this works to their best advantage, they are usually also good at masking or acting in a way that makes others believe what they see.
Being Interesting and Interested
Charismatic people are both interesting – others want to listen to what they have to say, and interested – they want to listen to what others have to say.
Charismatic people are able to communicate their message clearly and concisely, being serious and injecting humor where appropriate to keep their audience attentive and focused. When they are in one-on-one or small group situations, charismatic people will use open, relaxed, body language including lots of eye contact. Charismatic people are also interested in others. They are likely to ask open questions to help them understand the views, opinions and feelings of others and, because of their ability to make others feel at ease, will often get honest and heartfelt answers. The charismatic person can be empathetic and considerate towards others, remembering details from previous conversations and therefore gaining respect and trust.
A sincere smile, maintaining eye contact, being polite and courteous is a very effective way of getting people on your side. People are much more likely to do things for you if they are treated well and you are nice to them.
Charismatic people tend to be intelligent, with an up-to-date knowledge on current affairs and rounded general knowledge. This makes small talk, the sometimes awkward beginnings of conversations, easier. Expert knowledge also inspires the confidence and belief of others in the abilities of charismatic people.
The power of charisma is the ability to make people want what you want or unite in a common cause.
This ability can be used for both good and bad causes, charismatic leaders may be able to influence and encourage their followers, to motivate people to do what they want.
Charismatic people are assertive but usually in subtle ways, they can persuade through their words, encourage with their optimism and confidence and be assertive by utilising their understanding of emotions, both theirs and those of other people.
Maintaining Attention to Detail
Charisma is all about attention to detail and the detail of how interpersonal interaction takes place.
Being charismatic involves communicating dynamically, with passion and enthusiasm whilst displaying positive body language. It involves thinking positively, having optimism and self-confidence, it’s being persuasive and building the respect and trust of others.
We can all learn to be more charismatic by developing our interpersonal skills through understanding and practice. Remember, however charismatic you are – you can’t please all of the people all of the time.
(Adapted from “Skills you need”)