Children are very sensitive and they easily gather bad and good energy. Therefore, fighting in front of your kids maximize their levels of stress so it becomes harder for them to sleep at night and their emotional stability decreases. This is illustrated in aggression, hostility, anxiety and depression. It also makes them believe that by yelling and fighting you can easily win a discussion, which later on affects their future personal relationships.
How to Easily Fix Conflicts
Sometimes it is impossible to avoid getting into a fight; you have to resolve your problems away from the kids. If you can’t go into another room, stay away from certain issues that relate to intimacy and grown-ups. Following are the do’s and don’ts that if applied you won’t be causing emotional damage to your children:
- Don’t speak in a loud tone
If you are trying to resolve an issue, do not adopt shouting and yelling for it will not lead you anywhere. Yelling and shouting will cause stress and depression to the kids if they are present in the same room as you are. Therefore, it is better if you keep your tone low especially with the kids around.
- Avoid using bawdy language
When you are mad and furious, bad language easily flows out of your mouth, but for your children’s sake control it! You should respect one another and you can discuss the problem without demeaning each other.
- Don’t blame each other’s
Children learn how to blame one another for their mistakes when they see their parents fighting. Whether you are the one to blame or not, avoid this even when none of you is listening to the other. Find solutions to settle your fight instead of blaming one another.
- Don’t involve your kids in your fight
Do not make your kids choose a side because they don’t like this. Putting them in the middle of your fight might shake their emotional stability and later on, they will become hostile towards you.
- Solve your problems and make them witness that
Kids are sensitive that is why they should learn that any problem could be solved in a positive way. Conflicts should be settled in front of children in order to make them see that anything can be solved no matter how tensed the fight was. This will also help them learn how to solve the conflicts through communication and peaceful discussions.
Every married couple goes through a lot of fights and arguments. Nevertheless, children don’t need to endure the burden of a fight. If you handle every fight in a calm and well-thought-out manner, your children will learn how to act like you in their future relationships