Your boss’s opinion of you plays an important role at work. Your performance, of course, is a major factor; but how you act and whether he likes you as a person matters a lot as well. You should definitely never try to play his part of the job; however, you can beat him with your behavior and your body language, i.e. the actions you make in order to show how involved, active and interested in what you do. Here are the best steps you can make to build a very strong relationship with your boss:
1. Listening Actively: All you have to do is to show your boss how interested you are in what he is saying throughout his meetings or in your conversations together by maintaining eye contact. Do not forget to keep your facial expressions relaxed as well as your upper body in order to look prepared for instructions and discussions. Most importantly, do not sigh or distract yourself by playing with items placed on the desk or with your clothes. This will reflect your disinterest.
During communication, do not “over-do” attentiveness. Just keep the alert posture, avoid stretching the neck or moving the neck because this will show that you want to be in control.
2. Reflecting the style of interactions of the company: Working environments differ between offices of different companies; in some offices, coworkers welcome one another by hugs and kisses, however in others, this type of communication does not exist. Each office adopts a different method of body language or contact, affection and enthusiasm. That’s why you have to make sure that you follow the office’s method when communicating with your boss, or people in higher posts in your company.
3. No faking it: Being real is one of the most important factors in building a strong relationship with your boss. When you are searching for a good opinion of you, agree on anything that he says when all he’s looking for is support and appreciation. Yet, be aware not to smile and nod for anything, because you will appear to be untrue in your judgments and your expressions will be disliked. You’d better show your boss that you are someone who is honest and not afraid to hide your true thoughts. Therefore, reflect what you really and truly feel. Bosses are usually impressed by genuine people. When you are confused, frown; when you feel appreciated, smile. Most importantly, do not be expressionless.
4.Faking when necessary: If you really care about having a good opinion from your boss, whether you care about him or not, it won’t help to be true about your feelings and thoughts. Do not over-fake it because the last thing you want is to reveal this fakeness when trying to build a relationship. In order to feel more comfortable around your boss, always pretend that he is a special friend that you haven’t seen for a long time. It will help you change behavior. Let your actions come from inside in order to reflect a natural body language; simple smile on the face, enthusiasm when he is around, relaxed upper body and posture… This is all you have to do.