Self-confidence cannot be acquired by taking some nutrient pills or vitamin capsules daily. It is the result of a long path that started since the first days of life. It was shaped by our history, personality, family and social environment… Self-confidence is born out of all these different factors; it can be strong for some people and fragile or exaggerated for others to the point of insolence.
Wellbeing and respect
Undoubtedly, self-confidence generates a feeling of wellbeing and self-respect. It is essential to promote participation in the society and succeed in life. How can self-confidence be acquired? Parents can help their children from their early age to have this confidence. Here are some tips from the psychologist Carole Saade to reinforce and improve your children’s self-confidence:
“Children learn a lot from their parents. If your child sees that you’re uncomfortable and not confident, he will imitate you. A parent that shows a confident behavior in daily situations will pass this quality to his child. In turn, the child will learn to be confident easily.”
Be his “supporter”
In order to reinvigorate and enhance his self esteem, your child needs you; he needs to know how important he is to you. If you take the time to look with confidence to his experiences, his failures and his achievements, this will make him feel secure and thus he will have confidence in himself. Support him when he makes unintended mistakes or when he fails to assume a mission. Encourage him to push him into going forward and achieving progress. Be his first “supporter”. Show him that you trust him, believe in him!
Overprotection harms your child
Parents tend to overprotect their children to spare them the suffering or to avoid overwhelming failures. However you must know that you cannot protect them forever! On the contrary, provide your loved ones with the means to confront the world, give them “keen weapons” and help them benefit the most from cultural capacities that reinforce their self-confidence. Start with entrusting them with tasks, according to their age and capacity. They will be proud and consequently, their self-confidence will increase.