Sometimes we are served badly and we do nothing about it. Our friends are mean to us and we let them walk over us. In theatres, people in the audience will text, talk on the phone, strike up conversations as if there is no social obligation of silence, and we say nothing to them. We let people throw trash on the streets, our streets, and we never say a word to them.
Businesses often witness bad management by employees whose work abilities and attitudes are questionable, and their superiors lack the bravery to set the limits or let them go. Unfortunately, silence accompanies most people when they happen to witness illegality because they are not concerned, don’t want to interfere, or are scared to do so.
This must not continue in 2015. We need to be assertive in our actions and set the limits when needed. We need to stand up for ourselves and reject what is beneath acceptance limits, let it be from others or even ourselves. This is a state of mind, a way of transforming thoughts to assertive actions. It is the rejection of getting the short end of the stick, and taking control over our lives. It is the intention to swim upstream when everyone else is floating with the flow. This is deeply connected to personal image, the responsibilities and accountabilities an individual undertakes.
This mentality sets the bar of method by which one will live his life. It’s about understanding the principles and not selling them short, and the determination to stand up for them no matter what.
So how do you stand up for yourself? Here are five ways that will help:
- Don’t complain. It never resolves the problem, but rather extends its duration. Stop the finger pointing game and start doing something about it.
- Work on your self sufficiency. No one will land out a hand and it is no one’s duty. Clean up after yourself, metaphorically, and do all it takes to be the one in control.
- Don’t let people walk over you. You only get what you allow people to do to you. Defend yourself and do not allow anyone to undermine your potential or respect.
- Set your goals straight. Your resources of time, money, and energy should go to what you value the most. When your goals are clear, the plan will work itself out.
- Don’t make concessions on your principles. Know what is important to you and the reason behind that, and never step back with any valid reason. Values do not vary by setting, and the lines are set in stone and reflect your self-respect.
What will come out of this? You might hear a few harsh words along the way. Unfortunately, those who stand up for themselves are often misinterpreted. However, your sense of pride should be rewarding. Disregard others’ opinions and understand where you are coming from: bravery, integrity, and principles. When that is done, you will encounter success, better experiences and relationships, and will feel more dignified. What more could you ask for?